Yesterday I came across a metaphor from RDPP that clarifies the whole definition of what consent is and how it should be understood, and was absolutely in awe. This has been a pressing issue for decades, how can anyone be confused about the definition of answering a question? Well don’t fear because this metaphor helps get everyone on the same page in such a universal and timeless comparison.
If you ask someone for tea and they say yes, you typically go through the whole process of boiling the water and adding the fixings. Yes you expect people to drink the tea, BUT if they change their mind in the time it takes to add the milk and sugar, you can’t do anything about it. It does not make them a bad person, and does not make them less of a person. Yes, you went out of your way to make them the tea when they could have themselves, BUT drinking a cup of tea is a choice no one can take away.
If you’re at Starbucks and the barista jumped over the counter, grabbed your neck and shoved the decaf (that was supposed to be regular) down your throat when you said to forget about the order, it would be pretty weird.
Sounds dramatic doesn’t it? Think about how ridiculous it seems that some people still don’t understand the definition of consent.
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Till next time,