Now that the rush of finals are over I have the time to just observe whats going on since I’m stuck in Ottawa with no job and a lack of friends for the week.
When I went out last night, my friend and I couldn’t help but notice how scared 98% of guys were to come sit and talk to us. They always stand close enough to make eye contact, but always secretly watch to see if and how you turn down other guys, because realistically who wants to be that guy that got turned down in front of his buddies at the bar, right?
After realizing this, everything in the world made more sense (okay that’s a little dramatic but still). Guys are legitimately equally or more insecure than girls, especially from the ages of like 17-30. From this range girls typically will agree that nice guys finish last. Of course there are awesome relationships, long term or not, that help people grow within these ages; but all in all girls prefer guys that are less emotional and clingy.
Some guys already acknowledge that nice guys finish last and play along with little games like not texting but watching your snapchat story (or something along the lines of that). But let me tell you, when a girl actually treat guys as emotionless as we think they are, they totally miss the fact that they might be harshing on their ego and hurting a boy’s surprising abundance of feelings.
This reality is everywhere, from sappy love songs to fictitious characters; guys always display small (or large) acts of insecurity. So I guess everyone just needs to consider the other’s feelings because in the end we’re all basically the same.
Till next time,