How do we explain this relationship we call friendship? It’s a beautiful, complicated and crazy dynamic, and you wouldn’t have it any other way. As you get older, the time comes where your group of friends shrinks as it’s typically based on location and length of knowing them.
In High School, you always had your main squad to chill with (who is still main to this day). Before school, at lunch and after school, were all guaranteed times to see each other. These are the friends that have seen you go from your awkward abercrombie phase, to your semi-put together post secondary stage. They also know you better than the back of their hand, especially after your first couple drinking episodes, and sneaking out of the house. Remember, if you lose touch with your best friends from High School, then everything you’ve done together is nothing but memories. You always talked about the future together, so throughout reading week or summer breaks, try to catch up with the squad– when you see each other, it somehow feels like you’ve never spent time apart.
When you reach post-secondary a couple things could happen:
You may chose to chill with your work friends because you’re a workaholic. There’s nothing wrong with that, one, you’re making way more money than the rest of us and two, your work friends always get how you’re feeling and why you’re mad.
Long distance friendships are usually based on texting, facebook chat or skype, but make sure every couple weeks/months you actually check in. Throughout a long distance friendship, catching up for an hour twice a month is vital. It’ll be super awkward when you randomly text each other one time a year so you can see each other, because you’ve been so distant for so long.
Your university/ college/ exchange friends are basically your wingmen for life. The friends you live with is a whole new experience. This friendship has seen you’re sloppiest, most embarrassing states on a day to day basis, and has watched you grow crazy amounts in such small periods of time. These are the friends you go to weddings with and travel to random, crazy places with. These friends don’t judge you by your past, and help make your goals possible in the future. Living with someone is a whole new type of friendship and it constantly reminds you how important it is to have each other.
Friendship is a two way street, should always make you feel supported, and reminds you that you don’t have to be blood to be family.
Till next time,